Would you like to be kinder, gentler, more compassionate, more forgiving and loving? Many of us would. I know I would.
I don't have any sure-fire recipes on how to attain more of those things. But one thing I do know: When we have a build-up of hurts, resentments and unacknowledged wounds, we tend to hurt others more. Either the pus of resentments and hurts builds up and gradually seeps out in hurtful ways or it can come out in a huge burst of anger and harmful words or actions toward others. We lash out at others when the build-up is too great. Hurting people hurt others. That's just simply the way it is. Our bodies can't contain all those wounds and hurts forever without giving way to damaging and hurtful behavior.
So, though it isn't much fun to take a look at our wounds and pain, the end result is so worth it—not just for others but for ourselves as well. You know how great you feel when you've forgiven someone for something that's been eating away at you for a while. You feel liberated. Freer. Lighter. So it is with hurts and wounds. Let go. Open them up to the light, take a look at them, do whatever helps you heal. And let go. Repeat the process as needed. Clearing out those things will just open your heart space and you'll be kinder, gentler, more compassionate, more forgiving and loving.