What do you do when life piles up on you? You know the feeling, I'm sure. I've had several friends lately who have just had one thing after another come at them. Even people who are normally positive and happy get dragged down by such experiences. I've been there myself.
• Reach out to others. This is not a time to isolate yourself or to be a macho "I can do this myself" individual. Your family and friends stand ready to listen, comfort and help as they can. Don't miss out on such a rich resource by trying to keep your worries and feelings to yourself.
• Take one big issue at a time when you're seeking solutions. Although several things have come at you seemingly at once, it's impossible to handle them all at once. One at a time is enough.
• Prioritize. Which of these things are within your ability to change? Which can only be accepted? Remember the Serenity Prayer: "God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and wisdom to know the difference."
• Create plans for those things you can change, keeping in mind to make steps small and manageable. You don't want to get any more overwhelmed than you already are.
• Seek professional help if you need it. Again, be easy on yourself. You have nothing to prove. You simply want to get through this tough time—and sometimes we do need the help of others. There's no shame in that.
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