"Never does the human soul appear so strong and noble as when it forgoes revenge and dares to forgive injury." That's the quote that greeted me one day last week when I turned to a new day on my desktop calendar. It's attributed to Edwin Hubbel Chapin.
Someone else has said, "Revenge is sweet." But it really isn't sweet, is it? Revenge takes enormous amounts of energy—negative energy—from us. It also leaves us with a bitter taste afterward.
Forgiveness, on the other hand, frees up our energy to be used in the myriad ways we need to best follow our paths on this planet. As we've said before in these blogs, it lifts a huge weight from our shoulders.
If we want to stay true to our highest and best selves, it's always best to not focus on revenge but to let go, forgive and move on. That's a far better path to joy and happiness than plotting revenge and trying to even the score with someone who's wronged you.
It's not always easy. I know how easy it is to get sucked into that vortex of righteous anger and to focus on the affront. But I tell myself again and again, "Let go, Sonia. Let go." As I've also said before, letting go is a process; and you do need to acknowledge the wrong and feel it before you can move to letting go and forgiving. It's so much better for your health and happiness, however.