Seen on Facebook: "Confidence is something you create within yourself by believing in who you are."
When I was much younger, less confident and more shy than I am now, I envied people with confidence. I thought how fortunate they were to have been born with that quality.
Now I know, however, that there's much truth to the saying I read on Facebook yesterday. As with so many things, confidence is an inside job. It happens inside of you and starts between the ears. It's not something that's fully intact in you when you arrive on this planet. Nor is it a quality that anyone else can give you. It takes some work on your part—some growth and development. Confidence develops over time as you give yourself permission to be who you are—and come to believe in that person you really are. It happens when you like that person you are. Developing confidence is a process, and it happens as you begin to feel comfortable in your own skin (which really is about being authentic and being OK with that, isn't it?).
What are your beliefs about yourself? What messages do you give yourself? And what would it take for you to give up being who others want you to be—and be who you really are? And to feel good about that authentic you? Do you feel comfortable in your own skin? If not, what would it take to develop that confidence? Take bite-sized steps toward that today if you aren't where you want to be. And please contact me should you want to discuss this in a no-obligation, complimentary strategy session.