Some time ago I had a client whose issue was her husband's behavior and its effect on her. At least that's what she thought.
Once we began working together and laying out the problems and the change she wanted to see, I asked what would happen if she began instead to focus on herself. What do you really want, I asked? What's keeping you from that? How can you get there?
Once she followed that track and began to work on changing herself, she was so energized. She journaled. She read books. She found her voice. She stopped saying "Yes" so easily (and then ending up feeling resentful). Her goals focused on her own behavior. She found an authenticity she hadn't known before. The transformation was just amazing. And she's not done yet!
I, too, have been there and done that. I completely understand what it's like to think someone else is the problem. And, in fact, there are things others do that do have a profound impact on our lives. But we can never change others. The only one we can ever hope to change is our self.
If there is something in your life that isn't just right and you would like to discuss it, I invite you to contact me. We can do a complimentary, no-obligation strategy session to see where you are now and where you'd like to be. And then you'll be able to create steps to get you from one place to the other. It's all up to you.