Friday, November 21, 2014

Feel the difference?

Perhaps you've experienced it both ways, too.

I've been in homes into which I've been welcomed and even though I know the hosts are busy people, I've felt they had all the time in the world to spend with me. They've listened thoughtfully, shared of themselves and helped me to feel relaxed and very special indeed.

Conversely, I've been in homes in which I can feel the busyness and stress even when I've just put one foot into the door. Even though the welcome was genuine and the hugs heartfelt and sincere, I felt as though I were intruding on their busy lives. They took phone calls while I was there, whipped out emails and weren't really present in our conversations. Ever experienced that?

As I reflect on the differences, it raises my awareness about my own behaviors. Do I help others feel welcome? When I am with someone, do I make them feel there's nowhere else I'd rather be right then? Do I listen attentively? Or am I formulating my next response? Or thinking about all the work I have yet to do?

I often have to remind myself: Be here now, Sonia. Stay in the present. Be with the people you're physically with, Sonia. Make them feel welcome and special. I know I can feel the difference.

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