For as long as I can remember, I've had a tough Inner Critic. Somewhere along the line, however, I learned to engage her—and to befriend her. I have learned to see myself, my gifts and my imperfections, through a pretty realistic lens. These days, however, I try to do it with more gentleness than I did when I was far younger.
Have you found that true, too? Do you see yourself realistically, but with gentleness, these days?
What I learned long ago when I engaged my Inner Critic was that she really wanted the best for me and was looking out for me. She wasn't always doing that in a gentle way, however. So I needed to "have a little talk with her" and remind her that the best way for that to happen would be with a bit more compassion and gentleness. Judgment and harshness were not going to get the best end result.
Most of us tend to be far harder on ourselves than we are on anyone else. Perhaps it's time to begin treating ourselves as well as we treat our best friends. After all, we are the one person with whom we'll spend the most amount of time as we make this journey through life. Don't we want to be treated well, be affirmed and encouraged? Loved? Accepted?
It's not too late to start viewing yourself clearly. With gentleness.