I've had lots of clients—and I have lots of friends—who are unhappy in their work places. Many say their work place is "toxic" and hurtful to their psyches and emotional well-being. Their work may put food on the table and feed their bodies, but it's killing their spirits.
It's always worth asking the question: Can you leave that work place? Is another job possible? Is a move to another department possible? What are the options for you?
Granted, sometimes you simply cannot afford to leave a work place. You may not be able to change jobs. There may be any number of reasons why you need to stay. If that is the case, it's worth exploring how you might protect yourself from the toxicity—or how you might even view your work place or colleagues differently. Most often, the way bosses or colleagues (mis-) treat us has little or nothing to do with us. It's more about them. It's often about the wounds and issues going on inside that other person. Knowing that doesn't make it any easier to take. Yet, sometimes it can make us more forgiving and more determined to be as kind, compassionate and loving as is humanly possible.
Generate as many options as you can. Above all, listen to your heart and protect yourself as best you can. Show yourself compassion, care and love so your spirit isn't crushed—and so you don't end up becoming a person you never wanted to be.
If you'd like some conversation around this issue, I invite you to contact me.