Wednesday, June 17, 2015

You have the power to choose

"Allowing people inside your life is a beautiful thing. Letting go of people who drain your spirit is another beautiful thing you can do for your life. The key to being happy is knowing you have the power to choose what to accept and what to let go."

These powerful words come from the inspirational author Dodinsky. And while they seem pretty straightforward, I'm not sure we always see ourselves as having choices when it comes to what (or whom) we let into our lives or don't.

It's really about setting boundaries for ourselves. Boundaries are similar to fences. We create them as a way of using our "power to choose" what (and whom) to accept and not accept into our lives. Setting boundaries requires us to first decide what behavior and type of talk we will (and will not) allow into our lives. Then we also get to decide what we will do once someone says or does a thing we have decided not to allow into our lives. This consequence isn't about being punitive or manipulative. It simply states the consequence of someone crossing that boundary line.

It's just important to know that we don't have to allow someone in who is toxic and drains our spirit. And, yes, it's beautiful to allow people inside your life. Just be sure to create boundaries for yourself. You do have the power.

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