I just saw something on Facebook that I really like—and I think you'll find it a good thought upon which to reflect as well.
"When something bad happens, you have three choices. You can let it define you. You can let it destroy you. Or you can let it strengthen you."
To make such a choice, however, requires that you pause. Take some time to think about what just happened. That makes choice more intentional. Otherwise, we tend to react to things that happen. Instead, it's far better to respond to what's happened.
Always remember that you have a choice about how to respond when anything happens. We often feel as though we have no choice. But generally that's not true. We make choices every day, mostly without even being aware we're doing so.
If you let what's happened define you, your narrative will be that of a victim. Poor me. That may feel good for a while, but it doesn't move you forward. It's pretty much a dead-end road.
You can let it destroy you. Again, not a good option—and definitely dead-end. But if you begin to ask questions about what can be learned from what's happened and about what it will take you to get through it, you can move on. Let it strengthen you. Perhaps it will take inner resources you didn't know you had. Perhaps it'll take the help of others. Don't be afraid to dig deep and to reach out. You'll be strengthened and transformed in the process.