A few months ago I blogged about my Wonder Woman costume, wondering if it was time to bury it. I just read an entry in The Woman's Book of Courage by Sue Patton Thoele telling about a bright red card on her refrigerator saying, "Superwoman doesn't live here anymore." Thoele says it was a reminder to her that she didn't need to be everything to everybody.
"When we do too much, take on too much responsibility, or overcommit ourselves, we end up being resentful and exhausted," Thoele writes. That follows well with what we discussed in these blogs last week. You are really the only one who can take care of yourself and your needs. And being "overtired, angry, depressed, or feeling used" because you're caring for everyone else and not yourself isn't helpful, Thoele says. She's so right.
If you need reminders, the book author recommends these two mantras, "I take care of myself" and "Superwoman doesn't live here anymore." You might place those on post-it notes around your house.
We women can't "have it all" and we don't need to "be all things to everyone," either. Let go of those heavy expectations. Say goodbye to Superwoman!