There have been times in my life when I saw myself as a victim and felt helpless to really change the situation. I wish now I would have seen things differently for I might have had more choices than I imagined.
Recently I learned about two ways we can view ourselves. One is as a character in a narrative, a role. The other is seeing ourselves as a process (a work-in-progress, as it were). In the narrative, we are filling a role; and as a result, tend to see everything through the same filter. Perhaps it's as a victim. Or perhaps it's as a strong, I-can-take-on-anything person. Either way, we keep playing the same role no matter what happens to us. The situation changes. We don't.
In the other view, we allow for the possibility of change; and we have more choices. If I am free to fully let in the changes that occur regularly in my life—and to look at those changes as possibilities rather than obstacles—so much more choice is allowed. Can you see the difference?
In that second view, change can actually be welcome. Often we fear change, and yet it's a regular occurrence in all our lives.
I want to see myself as a process—a more dynamic view of myself in life. I don't want to play the same role over and over until I die. How about you? What are you going to choose?