Thursday, April 5, 2012

I don't even know the questions

Some time ago a friend told me, "I'm really not happy with my life right now. But I don't even know how to fix it. I don't even know the questions I should be asking."
Ever feel like that? I have. It's one thing to have the questions and no answers. It's quite another to not yet have the questions.

It's really OK, though. It's not always a comfortable place to be. But it really is a place of possibility. Like an empty bowl.

Start with what is
What is real for you right now? Write down what you like about your life. Write what you don't like. Keep those two lists around.

Then switch up some things in your life. Take different routes to get places. Try new things. New foods. See movies you wouldn't typically see. Try new activities. Read books you wouldn't typically pick up. Do the same things differently. Hang out with some new friends as well as your usual crowd.

Sometimes you just have to change the patterns in your life so new ideas can bubble up. Imagine holding out that empty bowl. See what starts to fill it. Talk with other women. Share with all of us in the Comment box below; let's begin a conversation. 

And don't be like my friend, who also told me, "I can't sign up for coaching with you because I don't even know what to talk about." I've had that happen with clients before, and, together, we are able to drill down to the questions that are buried deep inside. So contact me for a no-obligation, complimentary strategy session—even if you don't yet know the questions!

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