Monday, April 16, 2012

The best and worst of women

Last week I heard a discussion on TV about women's choices: those who choose to work outside the home and those who are stay-at-home moms (and work inside the home!). The discussion arose from an unfortunate comment made in the political arena. It reminded me of how we women sometimes get divided into camps. I've done both: been a stay-at-home mom and later, a career woman. And I strongly believe in the value of each. More important, I respect each woman's choice.

As women, we can be so supportive and nurturing to one another. On the other hand, we can sabotage one another in ways that cut more deeply than any other wounds we might receive. Our relationships are so complex, aren't they?

As I received promotions in a former workplace, I had to contend with a certain amount of sexism and male privilege. However much that angered or distressed me, it never hurt as deeply as when other women cut me down (or cut me up!). Those experiences made me look at my own behavior, too. In what ways did (do) I do that to my sisters?

I want to be a supporter of other women—not a saboteur. How about you? In what ways do you encourage and support other women? And have you ever pulled the rug out from under another woman? Or had others do that to you? Let's see if we can draw out the best in each other.

I'd love to hear your experiences and thoughts about the best and worst of women. Please add them to the Comment box below.


  1. Aretha Franklin said it all: R-E-S-P-E-C-T !!! That's what we must do for each other!