Somewhere recently I read this wonderful statement: "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."
I really like that. I don't take it to mean we shouldn't grieve when important things are over for us. It's essential that we grieve death, loss of ability, loss of job, serious health issues and so much more. We really can't move on properly until we do our grief work. And that includes grief over small losses as well as the larger ones of life. If we don't tend to our grief over what we consider small losses, they build up over time and deliver a blow just as deadly as large ones. So tend to your sadness and grief.
What I hear this saying is that, when all is said and done, focus on the positive. Live in gratitude that you had a person, an experience, an ability—whatever the "it" is—at all. That's really the glass half-full rather than half-empty. There's so much more life-giving energy in a focus on the positive. The energy that results from always focusing on the negative doesn't move us anywhere. It keeps us immobilized. Fearful. Stuck in a rut.
If you have thoughts on this—or an experience to share—I'd love to hear about it in the Comment Box below. I'm guessing other readers of this blog would love to hear your wisdom, too.