We're not taught self-love

Most of us aren't brought up believing we should love ourselves first. But yesterday I learned about a woman in Houston, Texas, who married herself. She had vowed that if she didn't find love by the time she became 40, she would marry herself. She had an elaborate wedding and a "spiritual service" performed by her minister that included 10 bridesmaids.

No matter what you think of the idea, it is a reminder of the importance of loving yourself. The woman who married herself believed that loving yourself for who you are completely is essential before you can fully love someone else.

I don't know about you. But I didn't pick up that idea from society, my church or my family. The messages I received were more about loving God first, loving others and then self was at the bottom of the list. In fact, self-love wasn't mentioned but somehow I picked up the idea that it was selfish and narcissistic. I have learned through life's experiences, however, that it's so important to learn to love myself. When I can love, accept and forgive myself, I'm far more open and loving to others. Does that resonate with you, too?

So when things go wrong in your life, be compassionate toward yourself. Be loving toward yourself. Forgive yourself. Treat yourself as you would a good friend. Self-love, self-compassion and self-care are all part of being human and being healthy.