Author and entrepreneur E. Joseph Cossman, creator of the ant farm, had a subtle reminder for those of us who are prone to worry. He said, "If you want to test your memory, try to recall what you were worrying about one year ago today."
Chances are pretty good that you cannot recall what you worried about on this day a year ago—unless, of course, something traumatic and dramatic was occurring on that day that makes it stand out for you.
Typically, those of us who are worriers spend far too much time worrying about things that never come to pass, preparing outcomes for problems that don't even develop and therefore, wasting perfectly good time that could be better spent!
I tell myself that worry is a monumental waste of time. But it doesn't really stop me. I would like to at least cut back on the time I spend worrying. How about you? I would far prefer to spend my time living in gratitude and letting life unfold rather than worrying about things and thus, trying to control them (a useless pursuit anyway). Starting the day thinking of 3-5 things for which I'm grateful does help. And calling myself back to gratitude helps, too, whenever I find myself stressing over some possible future event. Can I refocus? Or even reframe?
Do you have some tried-and-true ways to decrease worry?
Showing posts with label control. Show all posts
Showing posts with label control. Show all posts
Monday, September 17, 2018
Friday, September 14, 2018
Control as illusion
Have you ever tried making a list of the things in your life that you actually control? If you haven't ever tried this, do so now, just for fun.
How long is the list? In retrospect, are there even some things you want to cross off that list as you give it more thought? Did it just get far shorter yet?
It is true that we like to think we're in control of a good deal in our lives. But think about it honestly—are you really able to control much of what happens?
When we get really honest with ourselves, we realize that about the only thing really in our control is how we respond to what happens to us. Try as we might to keep things under control, "stuff" still happens and we have to resort to Plan B, C, D or even X and Z! And for that matter, even how we respond isn't always something we control. Some of that is knee-jerk and may have been programmed into us at a very young age.
It's humbling and necessary to get past the idea that we're in control. It can also prevent a good deal of frustration, anger and resentment. Again, it's a matter of letting go of some illusions. We can learn to be more flexible and to acknowledge that we're really not in charge. We can go with the flow more often; and through it all, we can learn to be more grace-filled and accepting of others as we recognize that we're all just trying to do our best to get by.
How long is the list? In retrospect, are there even some things you want to cross off that list as you give it more thought? Did it just get far shorter yet?
It is true that we like to think we're in control of a good deal in our lives. But think about it honestly—are you really able to control much of what happens?
When we get really honest with ourselves, we realize that about the only thing really in our control is how we respond to what happens to us. Try as we might to keep things under control, "stuff" still happens and we have to resort to Plan B, C, D or even X and Z! And for that matter, even how we respond isn't always something we control. Some of that is knee-jerk and may have been programmed into us at a very young age.
It's humbling and necessary to get past the idea that we're in control. It can also prevent a good deal of frustration, anger and resentment. Again, it's a matter of letting go of some illusions. We can learn to be more flexible and to acknowledge that we're really not in charge. We can go with the flow more often; and through it all, we can learn to be more grace-filled and accepting of others as we recognize that we're all just trying to do our best to get by.
Friday, August 24, 2018
What have you learned about life and yourself?
I'm intrigued with a question that I just saw raised earlier this week: What is the most important thing you've learned about life and about yourself in the last 10 years?
Do you need time to think about that one? Or do you know right off the top of your head what your response would be?
My response might seem like a "duh" response to you—but I would have to say that my answer would be that I really have no control over much of anything! I can control how I respond to life events. But try as I might, I cannot control my environment and the things that happen. I don't wish to control others, but I realize how much I try to manage things in my life so that I know what will happen and when. And it really doesn't work. So what I need to learn is to be comfortable with letting life and events unfold as they will. I can't know what's coming. It just doesn't work that way. I want to learn how to ride the waves more easily, trusting that somehow things will all work out.
It sounds utterly ridiculous when I write this down. But it's true, so I may as well admit it and work on being more flexible and open to process and unfolding!
Have you thought about your answer(s) yet?
Wednesday, August 8, 2018
Control & fears
As I watch a beloved family member struggle with dementia, I am getting in touch with my own fears about just how I will age. Will I, too, have to face what he and millions in our country deal with in the last quarter of life?
Try as we might to keep our minds sharp, eat well, exercise our bodies, get sufficient sleep and do all the other things we're encouraged to do to stay healthy for as long as possible, we know that there are no guarantees. That doesn't mean we shouldn't do those things. It does mean, however, that even as we do, we should be realistic about the fact that we aren't really in control. Sadly, we don't get to check boxes of what we'd prefer to have or not have as we age!
I'm an Enneagram Type 8, and the basic fear of this type is of being controlled or harmed by others. So control is a key issue for my personality type. The basic desire for an 8 is "to determine their own course in life," and the superego message is, "You are good or okay if you are strong and in control of your situation," according to Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson in their (wonderful) book, The Wisdom of the Enneagram.
But, of course, that's unrealistic, isn't it? I'll never be completely "in control of [my] situation." And that's where letting go comes in. Control is an illusion and I need to let go. At the same time, I need to directly face my fear about whether I will face dementia at some point in my life. There's really nothing I can do about it—at least not beyond the usual efforts to stay sharp and healthy.
Do you have something you fear? Are you able to confront it head-on? And does it conflict with any desires or fears that are basic to your personality? These are all questions worth pondering. If you wish to discuss them further, I invite you to contact me for a no-obligation, complimentary coaching session.
Try as we might to keep our minds sharp, eat well, exercise our bodies, get sufficient sleep and do all the other things we're encouraged to do to stay healthy for as long as possible, we know that there are no guarantees. That doesn't mean we shouldn't do those things. It does mean, however, that even as we do, we should be realistic about the fact that we aren't really in control. Sadly, we don't get to check boxes of what we'd prefer to have or not have as we age!
I'm an Enneagram Type 8, and the basic fear of this type is of being controlled or harmed by others. So control is a key issue for my personality type. The basic desire for an 8 is "to determine their own course in life," and the superego message is, "You are good or okay if you are strong and in control of your situation," according to Don Richard Riso and Russ Hudson in their (wonderful) book, The Wisdom of the Enneagram.
But, of course, that's unrealistic, isn't it? I'll never be completely "in control of [my] situation." And that's where letting go comes in. Control is an illusion and I need to let go. At the same time, I need to directly face my fear about whether I will face dementia at some point in my life. There's really nothing I can do about it—at least not beyond the usual efforts to stay sharp and healthy.
Do you have something you fear? Are you able to confront it head-on? And does it conflict with any desires or fears that are basic to your personality? These are all questions worth pondering. If you wish to discuss them further, I invite you to contact me for a no-obligation, complimentary coaching session.
Monday, August 7, 2017
Control or cope?
As my sister and I deal with medical issues for a loved one in these last weeks, I have again been reminded of how when we face unexpected circumstances, we call on resources we didn't know were there—both our own and those outside of us. We don't know until we're tested just how many resources are there for us.
Suzanne Braun Levine says in Inventing the Rest of Our Lives, "Inner resources are what we find when we are called upon to cope with what we can't control."
There's that "c" word that many of us confront time and again. We like to think we have control of much of our lives. But do we really? So much is out of our control. So instead, we cope. We find the resources to do what we can—and we lean on others to fill in some of the spaces. We also lean on God (or whatever you name your Higher Power) because we know we simply can't control so much of life.
Levine also says that "...taking charge isn't about control at all; it's about coping with the unexpected." Indeed, it is.
We're all better off if we can shed the idea that we control everything. I need to remind myself of this often: Let go, Sonia, let go. Ask for help from others. Trust. Cope as best you can. Let go, let go. And some days, I do OK with this. Others, not so much.
How about you?
Suzanne Braun Levine says in Inventing the Rest of Our Lives, "Inner resources are what we find when we are called upon to cope with what we can't control."
There's that "c" word that many of us confront time and again. We like to think we have control of much of our lives. But do we really? So much is out of our control. So instead, we cope. We find the resources to do what we can—and we lean on others to fill in some of the spaces. We also lean on God (or whatever you name your Higher Power) because we know we simply can't control so much of life.
Levine also says that "...taking charge isn't about control at all; it's about coping with the unexpected." Indeed, it is.
We're all better off if we can shed the idea that we control everything. I need to remind myself of this often: Let go, Sonia, let go. Ask for help from others. Trust. Cope as best you can. Let go, let go. And some days, I do OK with this. Others, not so much.
How about you?
Monday, December 5, 2016
In charge or in control?
Larry Eisenberg, 96-year-old science fiction writer, said, "For peace of mind, we need to resign as general manager of the universe."
That made me laugh when I first read it. However, it contains more truth than poetry! We don't honestly think that we are the general manager of the universe. But sometimes don't we act as though we are? We think we have far more control than we really do have. We worry about things as though we really are in control. And yet, when it comes right down to it, we control precious little.
That said, we do have charge of some things in our lives. We make choices about whether we struggle against change or whether we accept it and move along with it. We make choices about our attitudes toward others and toward life in general. We make choices about our actions, whether to spray our anger and fears out onto others or whether to deal with them in a calm, less hurtful manner. So many choices. We are in charge of those and other choices.
It's good to know the difference between being in charge of things in our life and being in control. And it's good to know the boundaries of what's ours to manage and what's not.
That made me laugh when I first read it. However, it contains more truth than poetry! We don't honestly think that we are the general manager of the universe. But sometimes don't we act as though we are? We think we have far more control than we really do have. We worry about things as though we really are in control. And yet, when it comes right down to it, we control precious little.
That said, we do have charge of some things in our lives. We make choices about whether we struggle against change or whether we accept it and move along with it. We make choices about our attitudes toward others and toward life in general. We make choices about our actions, whether to spray our anger and fears out onto others or whether to deal with them in a calm, less hurtful manner. So many choices. We are in charge of those and other choices.
It's good to know the difference between being in charge of things in our life and being in control. And it's good to know the boundaries of what's ours to manage and what's not.
Thursday, March 26, 2015
Let go. Let go again.
Have you ever noticed how little control we have over most things in our lives? Somehow, we still maintain that illusion of control, however. I know that I'm brought up short many times with that little fact. Why, oh why, do we keep acting as though we can make all the trains (and people) run on time and get so bent out of shape when things don't go as we'd hoped, planned, or expected?
I keep reminding myself to let go, lighten up, go with the flow. Still, I get hooked again and again when things don't go as I'd hoped.
A few weeks ago at a women's retreat at which I spoke, I offered a breakout session titled "Live the Life You Have, Not the One You Hoped You'd Have." Several women had indicated an interest in the topic, and it was one that I needed myself. The sharing and stories that emerged at this small-group session were rich and poignant. It seems I'm not alone in getting hooked by my expectations.
I don't think the answer is just to lower expectations. For me, it makes more sense to still have expectations but to let go of some of the emotional charge of those hopes and expectations. It helps me, too, to stay more flexible about outcomes. I need to remind myself to be OK with what is rather than waste energy pining for what isn't or what didn't happen. As with so many things, including physical exercise, our muscles in this area strengthen and improve with practice. Practice may not make perfect, but it will definitely help me live the life I do have!
I keep reminding myself to let go, lighten up, go with the flow. Still, I get hooked again and again when things don't go as I'd hoped.
A few weeks ago at a women's retreat at which I spoke, I offered a breakout session titled "Live the Life You Have, Not the One You Hoped You'd Have." Several women had indicated an interest in the topic, and it was one that I needed myself. The sharing and stories that emerged at this small-group session were rich and poignant. It seems I'm not alone in getting hooked by my expectations.
I don't think the answer is just to lower expectations. For me, it makes more sense to still have expectations but to let go of some of the emotional charge of those hopes and expectations. It helps me, too, to stay more flexible about outcomes. I need to remind myself to be OK with what is rather than waste energy pining for what isn't or what didn't happen. As with so many things, including physical exercise, our muscles in this area strengthen and improve with practice. Practice may not make perfect, but it will definitely help me live the life I do have!
Monday, March 9, 2015
Say 'hi' to your fears
Fear. It's a huge topic, isn't it? Not one of us escapes this life without experiencing lots of it. I mean, lots of it. Many books have been written about it.
Do you ever think you're the only one so bound up by fear? Not so.
I do invite you to look it in the eye, however. See whether you can simply say "Hi" to it—acknowledge it—and take some small steps toward the object of your fear. Perhaps you'll be able to simply see it and not become its victim.
Some fear is helpful in that we need a warning that danger really is ahead. A storm is coming. Icy roads are ahead. Someone is about to harm us.
Most times, though, our fears are more about loss of control. We'll goof up. People will laugh at us. They'll think less of us. We'll fail. We won't have enough ______ (fill in the blank on that one).
Our fear offers us a chance to go deeper, to know ourselves better, to trust ourselves and others, to learn to let go our illusionary grip on control. But it all begins with saying "Hello" to it. As the saying goes, "Feel the fear and do it anyway." Got any fears you could work on today?
Do you ever think you're the only one so bound up by fear? Not so.
I do invite you to look it in the eye, however. See whether you can simply say "Hi" to it—acknowledge it—and take some small steps toward the object of your fear. Perhaps you'll be able to simply see it and not become its victim.
Some fear is helpful in that we need a warning that danger really is ahead. A storm is coming. Icy roads are ahead. Someone is about to harm us.
Most times, though, our fears are more about loss of control. We'll goof up. People will laugh at us. They'll think less of us. We'll fail. We won't have enough ______ (fill in the blank on that one).
Our fear offers us a chance to go deeper, to know ourselves better, to trust ourselves and others, to learn to let go our illusionary grip on control. But it all begins with saying "Hello" to it. As the saying goes, "Feel the fear and do it anyway." Got any fears you could work on today?
Wednesday, December 24, 2014
Sunshine on my shoulder
The sun came out yesterday! What a treat.
I had lost track of the number of gloomy, dark and sometimes rainy days we had experienced. And try as I might to stay positive, it was dragging me down. I could tell by Facebook comments and things my family and friends said in conversation that I wasn't alone in this. But all it took was one sunny day. Moods lifted—just like that!
Yesterday when I bought some last-minute grocery supplies, everyone seemed much more cheerful. Of course, it didn't hurt that a live pianist played lovely Christmas music while we shopped. But I suspect it was the sun that made the real difference. When I shopped on Monday, no one was quite so cheerful.
Try as we might to let our inner light guide us, we still have to admit that external circumstances can and do affect us. That said, it's important to do whatever we can to at least reduce the importance of externals. Or change those external factors over which you have control. For example, I obviously had no control over the sun. But I could, and did, leave my Christmas tree lights on all day to brighten my spirits during the dark and gloomy days. I could play cheery Christmas music on my CD player.
Do you pay close attention to your moods? And do you do what you can to maintain a positive attitude? It's a balance to do so—and still be honest and real with whatever hurt and pain you also experience. It's worth doing, though.
I had lost track of the number of gloomy, dark and sometimes rainy days we had experienced. And try as I might to stay positive, it was dragging me down. I could tell by Facebook comments and things my family and friends said in conversation that I wasn't alone in this. But all it took was one sunny day. Moods lifted—just like that!
Yesterday when I bought some last-minute grocery supplies, everyone seemed much more cheerful. Of course, it didn't hurt that a live pianist played lovely Christmas music while we shopped. But I suspect it was the sun that made the real difference. When I shopped on Monday, no one was quite so cheerful.
Try as we might to let our inner light guide us, we still have to admit that external circumstances can and do affect us. That said, it's important to do whatever we can to at least reduce the importance of externals. Or change those external factors over which you have control. For example, I obviously had no control over the sun. But I could, and did, leave my Christmas tree lights on all day to brighten my spirits during the dark and gloomy days. I could play cheery Christmas music on my CD player.
Do you pay close attention to your moods? And do you do what you can to maintain a positive attitude? It's a balance to do so—and still be honest and real with whatever hurt and pain you also experience. It's worth doing, though.
Friday, September 19, 2014
Control & choice
Actor James Dean once said, "I can't change the direction of the wind, but I can adjust my sails to always reach my destination."
That's a good reminder to retain our awareness of what's within our control and what is not. Changing the wind is not within our control. Adjusting our sails is. There is much in our lives that's completely out of our control. Knowing the difference is an important part of personal development—and of learning to live healthier lives.
Have you ever found yourself fighting or resisting what is? Perhaps it's an illness that struck you or a loved one. Or a change in job duties that you don't want. That struggle can be exhausting. You do have choices, even though sometimes it doesn't feel that way. At the very least, you have a choice as to how you will respond. Will you accept the job changes? Will you even make the best of them, at least until you can find a new job (if that's what you need to do)? Will you participate in choosing your treatment for the illness—and perhaps even actively seek out options yourself?
Reinhold Niebuhr's Serenity Prayer can also be a helpful reminder for such situations: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference."
Go ahead: Adjust your sails today and get where you want to go just the same. Then enjoy the serenity that follows.
That's a good reminder to retain our awareness of what's within our control and what is not. Changing the wind is not within our control. Adjusting our sails is. There is much in our lives that's completely out of our control. Knowing the difference is an important part of personal development—and of learning to live healthier lives.
Have you ever found yourself fighting or resisting what is? Perhaps it's an illness that struck you or a loved one. Or a change in job duties that you don't want. That struggle can be exhausting. You do have choices, even though sometimes it doesn't feel that way. At the very least, you have a choice as to how you will respond. Will you accept the job changes? Will you even make the best of them, at least until you can find a new job (if that's what you need to do)? Will you participate in choosing your treatment for the illness—and perhaps even actively seek out options yourself?
Reinhold Niebuhr's Serenity Prayer can also be a helpful reminder for such situations: "God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change; courage to change the things I can; and wisdom to know the difference."
Go ahead: Adjust your sails today and get where you want to go just the same. Then enjoy the serenity that follows.
Thursday, May 22, 2014
Changes & control
Have you ever been so busy looking at how others around you affect your life that you forget to look inside and see what part you play in how your life is going? Yup, me, too.
It's so much easier to see how the actions of others affects our happiness or unhappiness. It is often more clear to us what impact friends and loved ones have on how we feel about ourselves and our lives. It isn't as helpful, though.
It's good to do an honest check-in to see what's going on inside us. Are you carrying around old ideas about yourself? Old baggage? Old tapes? Resentments? Is it time to do some more letting go? Do you want to reframe some of your life events to see what blessings might have been contained inside even hurtful and painful experiences? Mind you, this is hard work. It's not easy being honest. What we see isn't always so pretty!
Recently I heard a wonderful phrase that reminds me to check out my own "stuff" rather than focusing on that of others. Here's the phrase: "Keep your dipper out of my bucket." When my dipper is in your bucket, I'm not paying attention to my own issues. And when it comes right down to it, I am the only person whose life I can change. I have no control over anyone else. Influence perhaps. But no control. And the truth is, even making changes in my own life is difficult. But I surely cannot make changes for others.
It's so much easier to see how the actions of others affects our happiness or unhappiness. It is often more clear to us what impact friends and loved ones have on how we feel about ourselves and our lives. It isn't as helpful, though.
It's good to do an honest check-in to see what's going on inside us. Are you carrying around old ideas about yourself? Old baggage? Old tapes? Resentments? Is it time to do some more letting go? Do you want to reframe some of your life events to see what blessings might have been contained inside even hurtful and painful experiences? Mind you, this is hard work. It's not easy being honest. What we see isn't always so pretty!
Recently I heard a wonderful phrase that reminds me to check out my own "stuff" rather than focusing on that of others. Here's the phrase: "Keep your dipper out of my bucket." When my dipper is in your bucket, I'm not paying attention to my own issues. And when it comes right down to it, I am the only person whose life I can change. I have no control over anyone else. Influence perhaps. But no control. And the truth is, even making changes in my own life is difficult. But I surely cannot make changes for others.
Wednesday, April 23, 2014
Receive—& let go
I don't know about you, but I find it easier to give than to receive. Somehow it just feels more comfortable for me to be on the giving end.
Recently, I'm getting in touch with what that might mean, at least for me. When I give to someone else, I'm the one in control. But when I receive from someone, I'm not. Is that a gender issue? I'm not sure. Or is that because I'm an Enneagram 8? Either of those could be true. Or it could just be my own issue.
In any case, I'm trying to let up a bit on being that strong, capable, competent, leap-tall-buildings-single-bound-land-backward-in-high-heels sort of person. I'm trying to let others know I need them more. Let them give to me, too. It's good for them. And it's good for me. And actually, it would be nice to retire that "Wonder Woman" costume! Why have I been hanging onto it all these years? Truth be told, it did serve me well after my divorce when I had to be out there making it on my own. It did serve me well when I worked in a patriarchal workplace. But it's one of the things (there are many more) I want to let go at this stage of life.
What's your experience of giving and receiving? And what do you need to let go these days?
Recently, I'm getting in touch with what that might mean, at least for me. When I give to someone else, I'm the one in control. But when I receive from someone, I'm not. Is that a gender issue? I'm not sure. Or is that because I'm an Enneagram 8? Either of those could be true. Or it could just be my own issue.
In any case, I'm trying to let up a bit on being that strong, capable, competent, leap-tall-buildings-single-bound-land-backward-in-high-heels sort of person. I'm trying to let others know I need them more. Let them give to me, too. It's good for them. And it's good for me. And actually, it would be nice to retire that "Wonder Woman" costume! Why have I been hanging onto it all these years? Truth be told, it did serve me well after my divorce when I had to be out there making it on my own. It did serve me well when I worked in a patriarchal workplace. But it's one of the things (there are many more) I want to let go at this stage of life.
What's your experience of giving and receiving? And what do you need to let go these days?
Wednesday, February 6, 2013
Life out of control?
Does your life feel out of control these days? Your to-do list is way too long each day. Your energy is low. Your stress level is high.
It really doesn't help you to know that thousands of other Americans are in the same boat, does it? It's your life and you want to get some control over the craziness and busyness.
So here's a thought: What one thing can you do today that will help you gain some control? Just one tiny step really can amount to a huge step. And it's that first step that's so important. It signals your commitment to do more than complain about your busy life. It says you are committed to taking action—to making some changes.
Take a five-minute breather sometime today and spend that time thinking about where you can start. After you've selected one step and mastered that, take another step. And another. You'll feel good about that at so many levels!
And remember: It's not about perfection. It's about doing your best and not giving up. Cut yourself some slack if you get caught up in the busyness momentarily. Determine that you'll get right back to making the change necessary.
At my Weight Watchers meetings, we talk about the very same thing. If we go off plan for one meal or even one day, we are encouraged to forgive ourselves and just continue on plan the next meal or the next day. It's not all-or-nothing. It's about doing your best and forgiving yourself when you don't.
Good luck to you! It really is worth it to bring some sense of control and calm into your life. Please let me know how it's going in the Comment box below or by emailing me at sonia@waytogrowcoaching.com.
It really doesn't help you to know that thousands of other Americans are in the same boat, does it? It's your life and you want to get some control over the craziness and busyness.
So here's a thought: What one thing can you do today that will help you gain some control? Just one tiny step really can amount to a huge step. And it's that first step that's so important. It signals your commitment to do more than complain about your busy life. It says you are committed to taking action—to making some changes.
Take a five-minute breather sometime today and spend that time thinking about where you can start. After you've selected one step and mastered that, take another step. And another. You'll feel good about that at so many levels!
And remember: It's not about perfection. It's about doing your best and not giving up. Cut yourself some slack if you get caught up in the busyness momentarily. Determine that you'll get right back to making the change necessary.
At my Weight Watchers meetings, we talk about the very same thing. If we go off plan for one meal or even one day, we are encouraged to forgive ourselves and just continue on plan the next meal or the next day. It's not all-or-nothing. It's about doing your best and forgiving yourself when you don't.
Good luck to you! It really is worth it to bring some sense of control and calm into your life. Please let me know how it's going in the Comment box below or by emailing me at sonia@waytogrowcoaching.com.
Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Let life flow
My March 9 blog talked about moving out of your head and down into your heart and the rest of your body. I had an experience more than two years ago where, during meditation, my head felt very heavy and I felt as though there were also something constricting it. Through journaling, I realized that my head was tired of “carrying” all my big life transition questions (brought on by being Reduced In Force from my job of 22 years). My head wanted some help: Call in the rest of the troops (my heart and the rest of my body)!!
As I journaled and lived with those thoughts and all my life questions, this is what came to me:
• Let life flow. Don’t fight it.
• Be open. See what comes.
• Feel the feelings. Do not feed them (with food—do you ever do that???)!
• Give my head a break. Open up to my entire body.
• Accept what is.
• Enjoy what is!
• Look ahead. Quit looking back.
• Quit trying to control or force life into a predetermined path.
What’s on your mind these days? What’s next for you? Tune in to your inner self and see what you discover. You’ll feel so powerful accessing your inner truths and wisdom.
As I journaled and lived with those thoughts and all my life questions, this is what came to me:
• Let life flow. Don’t fight it.
• Be open. See what comes.
• Feel the feelings. Do not feed them (with food—do you ever do that???)!
• Give my head a break. Open up to my entire body.
• Accept what is.
• Enjoy what is!
• Look ahead. Quit looking back.
• Quit trying to control or force life into a predetermined path.
What’s on your mind these days? What’s next for you? Tune in to your inner self and see what you discover. You’ll feel so powerful accessing your inner truths and wisdom.
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